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22Apr/100

Clear as Mud

You can never be too clear.  Like a window can never be too clean, or water can never be too clear.

Clarity is something we're working hard on at GBCK.  Here are some things we're learning, and re-learning, about clarity:

• It may be clear in your head (or in your staff meeting) but it takes a whole lot of work to make something clear to the rest of the congregation.
• Clarity can never be assumed.  It's safer to assume things are still unclear, and then keep working at clarity.
• Pop quizzes: one way we want to determine clarity is short "quizzes" that will help determine if something that's being communicated is going in.
• Say it often, differently, and creatively.
• Clarity empowers others and frees them to act.  Lack of clarity paralyzes.
• If the leadership is unclear then it's over; what you're trying to communicate will end at the leadership level and never go to the congregation.
• Use sounding boards to gauge clarity.  One of my most important weekly meetings is our "Word" meeting where Dane and I go over Friday's and Sunday's sermons.  We spend a lot of time clarifying big ideas. "If there's a haze in the pulpit, there's a fog in the pews."

Here are some of the things we're trying to clarify:
1. The vision of GBCK
2. Leadership roles and functions
3. The Gospel

Again, you can never be too clear.

27Oct/090

Saying the Hard Thing

Incredible start to the week with a couple of meetings with key leaders.  What I admire about these leaders is their willingness to say the hard thing.  And because they are willing to do so, they help sharpen me as a leader and, in turn, make GBCK better.  You wouldn't call these meetings "feel good" meetings, but they are so vital for the health of our leadership team.

Here are some observations about saying the "hard thing":
1.  Each leader took time to think about what they wanted to say.  Rather than speak from raw emotion, they took time to pray, think, and even sleep on their thoughts.
2.  They said the right thing in the right way.  Sometimes you can say the right thing in the wrong way and it sours the conversation.  Each leader said their thoughts in a way that was clear, forthright, and respectful.
3.  When someone is willing to say the hard thing it shows they care; their heart is in it.
4.  It's never personal, never.  In the end, we're still friends.
5.  Saying the hard thing is always a risk because you don't know how the other person is going to react.  Still, it's a risk worth taking.

As I said, these types of meetings are never comfortable, but in the end, it's saying the hard thing in love that makes us better.